If you have your sag set then I would work on the damping.
It sounds like you have plenty of damping adjustment left, and the rear height is still stock.
If it were me I would raise the rear, and start clicking the compression damping clockwise. Front and rear. Keep track in a notebook.
No reason to give up, it is not uncommon to sort out the suspension when riding aggressively. A friend of mine just bought an R6, you should read the post on his woes....
I guess I am trying to say there are apparently, (reading your post), plenty of options available yet to remedy your bikes handling, with the stock components.
If you know someone in your area to check things so much the better. A good guy can sit on your bike and compress the forks, bounce up and down, and tell a lot just from that. My experience with monsters thinks your situation is not that uncommon. Sometimes compliant can also be confused with too soft. Have you put a zip tie on your fork tube to check travel by the way?